I can NOT believe I just wrote that. In my mind I am not that far off from the 20 and 30 somethings in my life. I still think of myself in the same stage of life as those young’ins. Then that number quickly reminds me that I am in fact at a completely different stage in life.
Perhaps it’s because I started my family a little later or changed career paths, but I just don’t “feel” like I’m any older than I was when I turned 30. In fact, I remember my 30th birthday. I was at a crossroads in my personal life and was planning on just hanging out at home, until a good friend of mine insisted that we go out to dinner (thanks, Ang!). She took me about an hour away to BJ’s Brewhouse in Columbus. Now, here I am living in Columbus and staying in to celebrate. Granted, there is a pandemic and all, but regardless, I would probably just eat a meal with my little family anyway. We’re just getting DoorDash to bring it this year!
So how is being 40 different from 30? The biggest difference is my family. I am married to an amazing man who makes sure my car is safe, delivers flowers to me, puts others first, cooks amazing meals, helps around the house, works hard, and is a very involved father. Then, there are these two boys that we brought into this world. They keep me very busy and constantly challenge me as a person. Their personalities are vastly different from each other, so as parents we have to be very flexible and consistent with how we structure their little lives.
For so long I wanted to be a mom. Remember that crossroads at age 30 I mentioned? The longing to be a mom was strong on that birthday. I was starting to feel like I would never get the chance. Man, if I could just go back and tell myself that everything would work out! I guess that’s the difference. Time gives you perspective and hindsight.
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